TikTok Shows How Easy It Is for Men to Make Coffee: ‘The Little Things Matter’ in Relationships

A woman’s husband sparked a viral sensation on TikTok with his rude reaction when she requested a simple coffee. The TikTok community quickly mobilized to demonstrate the proper way to handle such a request.

Whether they throw a fit at a gender reveal, forgo writing vows at their wedding, or react poorly to a coffee request, disappointing partners find their way into conversations sparking community outrage on TikTok. Such instances often inspire men to improve their behavior and encourage women to understand their worth. Recently, Amber Lykins, a TikTok user, shared a clip of her asking her husband to make her a coffee. His shocked reply, “Are you crazy?” quickly attracted attention. When Lykins explained she just wanted a coffee because she felt fatigued, the situation escalated as her husband questioned whether this was “a back and forth thing.”

He went further by demanding to know what he would receive in return for making her coffee, leading to a two-minute argument where he criticized the fairness of their relationship and Lykins’ ‘attitude.’ Throughout it all, Lykins calmly clarified that her request was a question without any demands, stating he could simply decline. Instead, he continued to complain, evoking how she had been “home all night” yet asked him to wash the dishes, whined about caring for their children, and claimed his employment justified his stance (a point Lykins pointed out also applied to her).

@amberlykins
Just say no if that’s how you feel?

♬ original sound – Amber Lykins

The video hit nearly 3 million views, with viewers expressing disbelief in the comments over how a straightforward question triggered such a prolonged rant of annoyance. Following this, numerous videos emerged to guide partners on how best to respond when asked for coffee.

TikTok videos educating husbands on coffee requests

In response, TikTok user Janet Glaser shared a stitched video attempting a similar interaction with her husband. In her clip, she gently requested, “Babe, can you make me a coffee?” from her husband, who was lounging on the couch watching a sports game. Though he first suggested sharing his coffee, she insisted on a “fresh coffee.” Within moments, he stood up to fulfill her request, asking her favorite creamer. Upon his return, he cheerfully delivered her coffee in a “best mom ever” mug, scooped up their son, and returned to the sofa with the boy. Glaser’s caption read, “The little things matter.”

@janet_glaser
The little things matter #relationships #husbandwife

♬ original sound – Janet_glaser

Commenters applauded Glaser’s husband for his many “green flags,” noting his willingness to help while displaying affection towards their child. However, user TheBookOwl90 pointedly remarked, “Isn’t this just the bare minimum?” Glaser agreed emphatically, stating, “YES, this is the bare minimum.” While her husband’s actions were commendable, they should not be viewed as exceptional. In a loving relationship, partners ought to be inclined to perform small acts of kindness without feeling entitled to something in return. Many women shared their enjoyable experiences where their partners responded positively when asked for coffee.

One woman’s partner eagerly sought to clarify her preferences, eager to ensure he delivered just what she wanted. Another man was visibly surprised that his wife had even to ask him. He responded with a look implying a resounding, “Of course, I’ll get you coffee.” Another partner asked if she would prefer coffee made at home or a trip to a café. One young man queried how to make coffee and requested his wife’s guidance.

@myriamestrella8
Uhhh…? ??☕️

♬ original sound – myriam gets healthy?

@beckychicoine
Just checking in fam

♬ original sound – Becky Chicoine

@imecommunity
#stitch with @Amber Lykins She deserves better. Maybe he was having a bad day. There were many red flags in the video. Seems like a draining interaction. #relationshiptips #lifecoachingtips #kindnesswins #couplestiktok

♬ original sound – Dr. KarlaMD

@savannahhobbs8
Will you make me a coffee?? I have the best husband. #willyoumakemeacoffee #coffeetiktok #coffeetok #husbandwife #husbandtok

♬ Sweet Love – Myles Smith

It’s clear that the interactions in these videos lack any arguing, whining, or toxic behaviors. These couples displayed mature responses to simple requests, showcasing genuine bond where they can ask for minor favors without hesitation. In a healthy relationship, both partners appreciate the level of comfort that comes with such exchanges, understanding that their connection strengthens with every small act.

This “Can you make me coffee”phenomenon mirrors the “Would you peel an orange for me” trend. Neither situation stands as proof of a solid relationship but serves to highlight which partners recognize the significance of small gestures and which escalate over trivial matters. Everyone deserves a partner who prioritizes those little acts of kindness, making it essential to reflect on whether one is willing to offer such gestures before embarking on a relationship.

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